I should, well could, be married by now if it weren’t for nosey jerks.
In 2002, I met a girl. She was introduced to me by a “friend” of mine, a schoolmate of hers. We became really close friends, right off the bat. We started hanging out, talking all the time, texting (that was right when texting was getting popular.)
I had a pretty big crush on her, but I didn’t know how she felt about me. So one day, I knew I was going to be hanging out with her, so I finally decided to gather up the courage and tell her how I felt about her. That night, before I got the chance to tell her what I thought about her, she told me that she thought of me as a big brother. Right then my whole world sank. I couldn’t tell her after that. Because I knew our feelings weren’t the same. We became best friends, for the next three years. We were present in each others lives, almost every day.
About 5 months before I moved back to the US, one night we were having a very deep conversation. In that conversation she told me that, soon after we met, she told the “friend” who introduced us, that she had a crush on me. That “friend” went around and told everybody in her class, that she had feelings for me. That her telling me that she thought of me as a brother, was her way of putting up her defenses because she didn’t know if I felt the same way. I should have just told her that night. She is now happily married.
But see, as christians we love getting into other people’s business. We do it on a regular basis. We don’t have any problems meddling in other people’s business, but we don’t want people to meddle in ours. We’ll tell people without a flinch what we are thinking about their situation. But we’re too ashamed to tell people what the Bible says for us to say.
Isn’t that a little backwords?