I just want to put my own thoughts about Engagement out there as a single guy. I will use a Bible verse, but everything I’m saying is my own opinion. It doesn’t necessarily come straight from the Bible.
A friend of mine recently got engaged, and she was telling me all about how beautiful her ring was. I was asking her about it, but I wasn’t going to dare ask how much it cost. But either way about it, she told me. Let’s just say, it cost her Fiance more then what I have made in the last 7 years. I’m not exaggerating, at all. So it really started making me think about that kind of stuff. Now, if you have an expensive ring on your finger; I’m not trying to make you feel bad, or anything of that sort. But as people in general, not only as Christians, but as human beings we talk about “Oh, I wish I had money to help the poor.” or “If I had some money, I’d totally give to that organization.” But yet so many people have money, in earthly treasures, that could be used for so much more.
“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21
This is how I see myself getting engaged. I’m some what of a hopeless romantic, so don’t judge me. I love waterfalls. I have always been fascinated by waterfalls. The cool thing is that most waterfalls, always keep on going. Sometimes there might be more water than other times, but it always flows. So I would save up some money, set it aside. Then I would take my girlfriend somewhere, where there is a waterfall. Have a picnic, and explain to her, that my love for her is like the waterfall; Always flowing. Even when times are tough, and there is little water, or when there is an over flowing amount of water. My love will never run out. See, I’m hopeless. I know. Then propose with a cloth ring. and when she says yes, I’d tell her that the cloth ring would only be temporary, until we got married. So we could get it permanently in ink. So you’re probably like, “What would you do with the money you set aside? Why didn’t you get a real ring?” We’d use that money, to make a difference in somebody’s life, on behalf of our engagement. Whatever God were to lay on our hearts.
Granted for any of this to actually happen, I would have to have a girlfriend with the same mindset as me. A girl who would put her love for God first, before she would ever think about dating me. But I believe she’s out there somewhere. I just want that kind of love. Putting other peoples needs before our own. The ring may look beautiful on you now. But when you’re dead, and it is 6 feet under with you, what good is it actually going to do?