50% Of The Youth At My Church Are Fake.

A lot of you know that I am a volunteer Youth Leader at My church. I have been working with students for five years and I love every minute I have shared with these  growing young adults.

When I think of the first group of kids that I worked with back in 2005, I honestly start crying. I really feel that I didn’t do a great job as a youth leader. Most of them are off in college right now, some of them have kids, and even fewer of them are married. Out of all the highschoolers I use to work with (approx. 70 kids) that I know of, only 5 of them have an active relationship with Christ. If that doesn’t break your heart, I don’t know what will. Granted some may be going to churches where they go to school, and I have lost touch with a lot of them. But I can only name 5 who I know for sure are still madly in love with Christ.

There is a growing trend of “Fake Christians”. A friend sent me a link to an article (which is posted at the bottom) about youth today, who think that as long as the play nice and go to church, they will be okay. Honestly, we as Churches and Pastors, and Youth leaders and especially Parents are responsible for that. When was the last time we looked are youth in the eyes and said “Not trying to scare you, but if you don’t have an ongoing personal relationship with Christ, you’re going to go to hell.” I mean’ I do believe that we have to be sensitive to a point, however we do have to tell them the whole truth of what the bible says. (Deut. 4:2 “You shall not add to the word which I command you, nor take anything from it, that you may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you.”)

I’m not a parent of a biological child, so I’m not trying to tell you parents how to do your job. But I do have many spiritual children, who look up to me.  One of the things I hear all the time is “I wish my parents would live the way they want me to live.” Your Children need to see you living for God, If they don’t, then chances are you dropping them off at church, won’t make a difference in their eternal destination. According to the article I mentioned 50% of youth that claim they are Christians, don’t even know how to back their beliefs. They say it because that is how they grew up.

I just want to encourage you to be there for your children. because as Youth Leaders, there is only so much that they will take from what we say. The rest comes by seeing Christ acted out through the people they are around the most.


The Link to the article I mentioned. http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/08/27/almost.christian/index.html

2 thoughts on “50% Of The Youth At My Church Are Fake.

  1. Very well put. There is no way to put enough value on being real with our kids. They don’t end up how we want them to, they end up emulating what they see.

    I particularly liked the part about kids wanting and needing “meat”. We hear all of the time how we are supposed to act and think, but we rarely hear the reasons “why”, which every parent knows, is a childs and young adults favorite word. EVERY explanation to a 2 yr/old is followed with a “why”.

    Another issue is that current adults/parents have grown up with the simple Bible stories without any understanding of them. God flooded the Earth. Kid – “Why? Where did the water go? Where did the water come from? Was it local or the entire world? Was Noah and his family the only people spared?” I PROMISE that college professors will chastise and belittle them for holding to these beliefs as being simple, uneducated and superstitious. They will use example and evidence. This will undermine the belief system of the kid as well as the credability of the parent. The kid WILL trust in reason and explanation.

    Do we know what we’re talking about? Do we REALLY believe what we are teaching our kids? Is the Bible without error and valuable in our day and age? I can answer an emphatic “yes” to the last one, but I’m not sure about the first couple. Are you?

  2. I agree 100%, Stephen. I’ve been working with youth for about 7 years now, and I can only name a few now whom I know are still strong church-going believers. Parents are their first teachers, but some come from homes where they are the only Christian in their home. Their parents didn’t teach them, so we, as youth leaders, must become their spiritual parents. They need someone that they see on a regular basis to live for Christ, and to help them in their own walk with Him.

    Thanks, cousin, for sharing. I believe you’re absolutely on point

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